The topic of not having things in common with people you once did came up in conversation the other day, and it just got me thinking about the many posts you see about outgrowing friendships.

There comes a time in life when you outgrow some of the people you once did life with. It does not mean they’re bad people or bad friends; it’s just called adulthood. This is just the natural evolution of friendships. We are all going down different paths, being pulled in different directions, so it is inevitable that we no longer share common interests. While our interests may change, so do our priorities, goals, and values. The conversations you used to have now almost irritate you, and you find them to be superficial.

So, it’s not by force, guys. Let’s stop trying to hang onto some friendships and force them into your life the same way you did when you were younger. It doesn’t always mean you stop being friends with them. It’s just a matter of; your once-close friends you used to do life with are now friends you catch up with once in a while if that, and that is okay!

Friendships can fade without there being conflict or resentment. Which is okay! I feel I need to reiterate that. I feel that society can make you feel bad or paint you as acting “funny” when you’ve simply outgrown people, and presenting people who are evolving in that way is NOT okay.

However, there can be an emotional impact of outgrowing friends, and because of this sometimes there is a sadness that can be associated with drifting apart. Occasionally, you can feel guilt attached to this natural shift. So allow yourself to grieve if you need to, accept that change is part of natural growth, and make room for the new meaningful connections heading your way.

I would love to hear from you! Let me know your thoughts; can you relate? Is this something you’ve experienced?

Until next time!

Peace and love! ✌🏾